11 August, 2010

God Help me to Love as You Love..... even when it is most difficult

Pretty sure everyone has, had, or will have, a toxic person in our life. You know who they are.....

OK, just incase you don't......I'll give you a few examples.

Debbie Downer: someone who is just oozing negativity all the time. It could be a beautiful day outside and when you express how wonderful it is, they tell you that tomorrow calls for rain.

Nay-Saying Nelly: someone who always tries to negate what you are talking about. They think they know more than you therefore they feel the need to constantly correct you.

One-uppin' Oliver: no matter what you are going through.....they have had it worse. In fact, they don't even take the time to talk about your issue and offer comfort or support. It turns into their experience/conversation immediately. These people also just "wait for their turn to talk" as opposed to listening.

Emotional Ellie: this person is an emotional rollercoaster taking you for the most unpleasant ride every time you meet. They can never keep it together and are always falling apart seeking someone to help them.

Jealous Judy: suffering from envy .....but taken to a severe level where they are bitter, seething and miserable and act accordingly in day to day encounters.

Fault Finding Fred: They never take responsibility for their own actions. They point fingers and blame others constantly so to take any feeling of failure or wrong-doing off of themselves.

Timmy Taker: name is pretty self explanatory......all they do is take, take, take. Your time, your energy.....they just suck the life outta ya.

or how about

"I'm the Victim" Victoria: She always is the victim....whether it is her health, her lack of finances, her hurts from the past that she can never let go, even how that clerk looked at her at the checkout. I heard this phrase one time from a preacher on TV and I just love it. "It's time to call the "whaaaam-bulance" for all the whining."

The guest list to the Poison Party can go on and on.......but you get my gist on whose attending.

One of the easiest and most sensible ways to deal with these people is to just avoid them. That's pretty simple, huh?

But what about when you have toxic people that are integrated into your life and you have to be in contact with them on a regular basis. They could be your boss or co-worker. They could be your neighbor. Or even more "regular".......a close family member such as a sibling or parent. Now what?

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